YOU ALREADY HAVE YOUR HAPPINESS - YOU JUST NEED TO SEE IT
There’s a big difference between happiness and pleasure. Pleasure is short lived, unreliable and often stimulated by something outside of ourselves like drugs, alcohol, a ride in a rollercoaster or watching someone you dislike fall flat on their face!
Pleasure can make you giggle until you wet yourself, lose all sense of time and escape the mundaneness of normal life. BUT … it won’t last and what sometimes follows intense pleasure? Intense pain – hello hangover!
Happiness is calm and even. It is reliable, consistent and rarely makes you giggle until you wet yourself! Sounds boring? Sounds like you and I would have been best buddies 3 years ago!
Only now that I have real, lasting happiness, I don’t want to let it go. No cocktail, no high, no drink tastes as good as happiness feels. Sometimes I feel pure joy – watching a sunset, being with my kids, feeling relief that I am no longer reliant on poison to keep me going.
Happiness requires work and commitment but the rewards are unparalleled! Here are some ways that you can work on and develop your happiness.
Jump Into The River Of Life And Let It Carry You Away
If you feel stuck, bored or depressed for no apparent reason then maybe you need to change your perspective on life. The Hindu concept of the River of Life is one that I find both comforting and compelling. Come with me on a trip to the river … Picture a beautiful river. The sun is shimmering on the water, dragonflies […]
A super easy meditation technique to help procrastinators get sh*t done!
I am a massive procrastinator. I love nothing more than to drink coffee, eat biscuits and plan stuff. Could do it for days! Trouble is, if you actually want to get shit done then this bad habit can really stand in the way of your goals. I have a super easy meditation technique to help procrastinators get shit done. We have […]
Gabrielle Aplin on mental health, creativity and living with ADHD
All hail Gabrielle Aplin for her amazing songs, her breath taking voice and now her openess about ADHD. I have been working with Gabrielle since she first started in music around 8 years ago. We have written songs together and I have engineered on her albums. But this week we decided to do a different kind of recording as she […]
Your Most Powerful Self Help Tool Is Honesty. Honestly!
You can try solving your problems by asking your friends, your family or your partner’s opinions. Am I a fun person? Do I drink too much? Am I good enough? Do hats suit me? But are you actually looking for honesty or is it reassurance you’re after? If it’s real personal growth you seek then stop asking everyone else’s opinion. The […]
Your mind is a puppy: can you make it walk to heel?
At the heart of mindfulness is the belief that we are not our thoughts. Our minds are distinct and separate from our ‘inner self’ or our ‘voice of calm’. We can see the mind as a puppy, which needs to be trained in a non judgmental, loving but firm way. Can you make yours walk to heel? How is your […]
The weather is complete shite today – rain, rain and more rain. On a grey day like today I really need a boost – I need my happy list: a short menu of easy, mindful activities I love. Sounds simple doesn’t it. But wait! The art of happiness is in part maintaining our contentment levels day to day and doing that […]
Hare Krishna: It’s The Voice of Calm Podcast Episode 6!
Ah, Hare Krishna, it’s episode 6 of The Voice of Calm Podcast, how marvellous. This week is all about karma, good intentions, self realisation and, weirdly, Avengers End Game! When I was a kid, growing up in Ipswich, my auntie told me not to take sweets from the ‘Hare Krishnas’ because they had drugs in them. Hmmmm. When I moved […]
Is The Muse 2 Meditation Headband Really That Good?
The short answer to this question is yes, the Muse 2 meditation headband is really that good! For the long answer, keep reading… If you meditate then you will be familiar with this little snippet of internal dialogue… Ohmmm…. deeeep inhale…. long exhale… aaand inhale….. exhale….Calming and soothing breathing, clearing my mind ….. Meditating’s great. It’s good that I made […]
I work with a lot of creative people and without exception the most successful creators I know are those most unafraid of failure. The terrifying spectre of failure can loom over us like the grim reaper, exhaling garlic breath all over our cool ideas. But what if, instead of running from it, we embrace failure? What if we stop trying […]
Whether you are writing a script, a report for your boss, creating a piece of art or just planning a party theme, you need your A game. Mindfulness techniques have helped me push past both overwhelm and writers block many times. Here are 5 super easy mindfulness hacks to improve your creativity and stop you from disappearing up your own […]
Forget Passion, The Secret To Success Is Finding Your Flow
Do you dream of starting your own business doing something you feel passionate about? Are you doing a job you just about tolerate but you don’t know what you should be doing instead? Maybe you are ready to return to work after years of parenting. Well, don’t get too focused on following your passion because the real secret to success […]
Bullet Journalling For Mindfulness And Mental Wellbeing
I love colouring things in, making lists and tracking my habits. If you are the same then bullet journalling was made for you! It’s fun, easy and encourages mindfulness and mental wellbeing. Here’s how you do it. Buy an empty journal with a dotted or square grid. I bought one like this from Moleskin. It comes with a Bullet Journal […]
As part of Esther The Golden-Doodle’s Lessons in Mindfulness we will be looking at every day techniques for staying mindful. Today it’s driving mindfully. Vroooom! Have you ever driven somewhere and when you arrived at your destination you had absolutely no recollection of the journey? You know you got there safely because you and your car are both in one […]
A Mindfulness Lesson From Esther The Golden-Doodle
So, I was in my kitchen this morning, trying to meditate but my dog had other ideas. Little did I know that Esther, my golden-doodle was trying to teach me a very valuable lesson in mindfulness! I sat at the island, on a bar stool, my back straight, eyes closed, breathing deeply and evenly, allowing my breath to fill my […]
It’s sunny, there are snowdrops in my garden and I feel all spring like! So I thought we’d do a bit of colour therapy together. It’s February and although spring feels close, we need colour and we need it now. So, here are 5 colourful ways to bring joy into your day. Buy Cut Flowers Or Potted Bulbs Don’t wait […]